Pleasing kids of different ages

Pleasing kids of different ages

My kids are 9 and 16. They are both girls, yet they have such different interests. I find that pleasing both of them is very hard. This is because they are so different. The things that one likes to do, the other doesn’t.

I found this out this past weekend when I took my kids on a weekend out of town. I took them to downtown Chicago and we stayed in a luxurious hotel. Each girl brought a friend, which helped, but it was still very hard to keep them both interested in the things we were doing. I planned some various events and activities, and it seemed like one of my daughters would be interested in it, but the other daughter wasn’t. This was horrible. While they both claimed to have a fun time on the trip, I don’t know if they really did. What I do know is that I didn’t have much fun. I feel like a horrible mother saying this, but it is true. I was so busy trying to make sure that they were both enjoying themselves that I didn’t have a chance to enjoy myself.

I kept reminding myself throughout the trip that the trip was not about me. I don’t get to take my kids away very often, so I wanted this to be about them. I am still left puzzled though about this. How do I please each one while they are together? An easy solution is to take them separately, but I don’t think that this is a good idea.