I am remarried and have two girls. My husband has two boys, but they are grown up and out of the home. My two girls live with me, and there are often challenges when it comes to this subject. My husband is very good with my daughters, yet he has never had girls before and he considers himself the step-dad.
He doesn’t always feel comfortable showing them love and isn’t quite sure how to handle the challenges of punishing the kids. This really doesn’t involve my 17-year old daughter because she rarely needs to be punished and he feels like he understands her better because of her age. My 10-year old daughter, on the other hand, is a different story.
She is constantly trying to hug and kiss him and he is not sure what to do. He will hug her back, but is very hesitant to kiss her. He wants to show her love, but he often doesn’t know how and he is so afraid that people will think this is weird. To her, she just wants him to love her.
This is just one of the many challenges involved with blended families. I am very fortunate because there are very few issues between my husband and my girls, but this is not always the case. There are many blended families that have extreme issues that involve much more, and one of these things is disrespect. I am glad to have few problems, yet sometimes the small problems I encounter seem to be big to me.